My Daughters Wedding
Posted by coventryrm on Saturday, December 15, 2007
Today my Daughter will be married in a LDS Temple.
I am not permitted to attend. I am not angry, just sad that my Daughter will not have her father or mother present at her actual wedding. Quite possibly the LDS perspective would be that it is sad because I made the decision to leave the church and how awful for me as her father to now not see his daughter be married. I have seen stories where an inactive father comes back into fold because he he can’t bare the thought of not seeing his daughter’s or son’s marriage, and also becoming a source of his new found testimony. I have wondered if that is why the Church is so unbending on this issue as it sometimes works as a tool to prick someones heart or emotions to return, as there do seem to be many ways this situation could be resolved but for whatever reasons the leaders of the church still hold to this rule.
I love my daughter and I think her future husband is a fantastic young man. They have made this choice to start their life together in a way that is very important to them, this I respect, I do not begrudge them even a tiny bit for following their beliefs. I do feel it is very unfortunate that certain people will be excluded from this ceremony as neither of my daughters parents will be with her as she is married. My daughter is just simply following her beliefs it is the LDS church leadership that have made the choice that has this unfortunate element of exclusion.
We will celebrate today, I will wait for their arrival at the reception location , there I will celebrate with them honor them and be with them on this memorable occasion. I will watch the exchange of rings and vows as part of a ring ceremony before the reception. We will visit and see friends, family and loved ones get reacquainted with those we have not seen for awhile because of time and distance. It will be a wonderful day.